Living With Mesothelioma -My Diary- The Day we Remembered our Debbie is it realy two years without her

Yesterday was Debbies Day Our love and thoughts were with Kieren as it was a difficult day for him. It was a hard day also for all the Mesowarriors as we remembered Debbie we each have our own memories of her as our special page showed yesterday 

I think because Debbie was young and had a young family she will always be remembered but most of all she was so full of fun and was a mischief maker with her pranks that made us laugh so much.

I miss her as we used to always be discussing what was going on Facebook, shall we allow this and shall we allow that, do you know her or do you this happened. etc etc we worked together on the groups behind the scenes. She was always asking Rays help to write letters as we campaigned to ban Asbestos in Schools or anyone that needed help. We alerted one another to a new Member who was seeking help when first diagnosed.

Yes I miss Debbie as all the Mesowarriors do

Richard Clarke summed it up well on the Special Page we had Richard ClarkeOur Special Memories Of Debbie , Such A Brave, Lady Well DB, it’s all a bit manic round ‘ere at the moment, one thing’s for sure, Kieran’s making everyone proud and you’re always part of discussions on here with friends and family. I can’t see the community you helped to build ever lose sight of your incredible contribution, we all miss you kiddo xx

A Tweet made me smile this morning as it seems to be  double standards to me when they issue advice about Asbestos and yet the US haven’t banned Asbestos

Asbestos In The HomeThis information will help you understand asbestos:

  • What it is,
  • its health effects,
  • where it is in your home, and
  • what to do about it.

Even if asbestos is in your home, this is usually NOT a serious problem. The mere presence of asbestos in a home or a building is not hazardous. The danger is that asbestos materials may become damaged over time. Damaged asbestos may release asbestos fibers and become a health hazard.

THE BEST THING TO DO WITH ASBESTOS MATERIAL IN GOOD CONDITION IS TO LEAVE IT ALONE!  Disturbing it may create a health hazard where none existed before. Read this before you have any asbestos material inspected, removed, or repaired.———-They give all this advise and yet they are still importing. and have no ban. I just cant understand their way of thinking.

ADAO have a huge job fighting such a Government as the link is a government link ?????

In our own Parliament yesterday BREAKING NEWS: Alert over another asbestos incident at the House of Commons. Reassurance given today leaves me feeling very unreassured! Your thoughts? A question asked about this situation on June 3 by MP Nic Dakin was answered on June 9. In the reply on behalf of the Government, Sir Paul Beresford downplayed the risk and reassured Commons’ users “that there is no reason to stop using the Chamber, or the adjacent offices and spaces.” There are plans “ to eradicate the asbestos in the trunking by the end of 2015.


Our GENIUS director Paolo Monico directed this incredible movie! Mother Please give it a check out because he is directing Beth and Charly and also he is amazing and also this trailer is everything.
VOTE FOR HIM! I mean once you watch it you can’t really do anything else but know that his should win. So that.

The TRAILER of my ‪#‎shortfilm‬ THE MOTHER has been NOMINATED for BEST TRAILER of the WEEK on VImeo!
Please take a moment to VOTE, help us WIN this competition and let the world know that ‪#‎asbestos‬ related diseases are NOT a thing of the past!

Paolo Monico is an award-winning Italian director based in Brooklyn, New York.  His impressive resume includes directing 25 music videos for major Italian artists and 100+ commercials for clients such as Coca-Cola, MTV, Honda, and Playstation, and now his first short film, The Mother.  The film will be in competition at the next Rhode Island International Film Festival from August 4th-9th.   

Paolo was inspired to write and direct this short film when his father, Alessandro, died of pleural mesothelioma in 2002.  However, his purpose is not solely to remember his dad, but also to raise awareness about the risks of asbestos, the terrible diseases associated with it, and the need to ban it in the U.S. and around the world. ADAO is extremely thankful to Paolo for raising asbestos awareness throughout the world and also sharing his personal experiences with us. Below you can find Paolo’s exclusive interview with ADAO and his films trailer!

Paolo’s Interview

Linda: Tell me about how your father, Alessandro’s, mesothelioma diagnosis impacted you as a young adult?

Paolo: Back then I was 30, and already a father myself. I went through the classic stages of grief. But the first one, denial, was huge. It took me a while to pass that stage. After all, Dad was an accountant, working in a state-of-the-art office building made of glass and steel, not a miner or a sailor. What happened didn’t make any sense to me and my family. Unfortunately we couldn’t do anything about it. Nothing could link the disease to that office without a shadow of a doubt. That was the worst part of the journey. I was left with no answers. Now I think that that lack of resolution shaped my way to look at things and it certainly had an effect on my filmmaker’s stance. It made me more and more inclined to question or doubt all accepted opinions and, consequently, made me aware I need to gauge human behavior through all possible benchmarks, patterns and dimensions.

Linda: Your film, The Mother, will certainly help to raise asbestos and mesothelioma awareness. When and how did you come up with the idea to make your film? Describe your creative process.

Paolo: Strange enough, the main engine of the whole process, years later, was that lack of resolution. I thought, well, maybe I don’t know why and how it happened, and I can’t do anything about it. But I can certainly make a movie to talk about the ways we, as human beings, cope with our losses. I’m sure there are lots of people out there who have been there before and know how I feel. This is how my short film “The Mother” was born. I wanted to make a movie about the truths we choose to construct when we can’t find a reason for our grief and anger.

Linda: As a filmmaker and asbestos victim, what would you like the viewer of “The Mother” to experience?

Paolo: I hope “The Mother” will take the audience through a space of bittersweet reflections, a dimension of doubts and crossed lines.  Granted, asbestos is the impalpable cause of death of my protagonist’s husband. But how did he get in contact with the toxin? Did it happen in the office he worked in? Can you prove the Corporation is the one to blame? And when you find out that it’s hard to point your finger in a specific direction, what do you do? As the movie progresses, it becomes clear that the audience won’t be spoon-fed with the filmmaker’s answers and points of view. On the contrary, they will be asked to find their own answers and eventually compose their own puzzle.  This is how I see life… now that I have gray hair! In my youth, I tried to convince myself that things are black and white. But they are not.

Linda: How can our community view and help you promote your film? 

PaoloThe film won’t be available online for a few months due to restrictions related to Festival submissions. But there’s a lot our community can do in the meantime. I’m a big fan of social media, and the best way to support the film is to look for our Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram’s pages and not only like and follow “The Mother” but also share our posts as much as possible in order to spread the word and get more and more people interested in supporting the film. Short films can’t usually count on a wide audience, but if we boost this tiny little movie, there’s a good chance that someone out there will be seduced by the potential of the story and help us developing a feature. “The Mother” can go a long way and maybe get some recognition. But in order to reach the widest possible audience and eventually raise asbestos awareness, we really need to turn this story into a feature film. Investigative journalist Michael Bowker once wrote: “I think asbestos-related disease victims are still waiting for an ‘Erin Brockovich’ or ‘A Civil Action’ kind of film.” – Well, maybe with your help, “The Mother” can become the springboard for that long-awaited film.

Linda: The USA still imports asbestos. What’s your message for Congress?

Paolo: When I tell people that Americans are unknowingly being subjected to exposure every day, they look at me askance. When I tell them that the U.S. still imports asbestos and allows asbestos to be contained in toasters, washing machines, dishwashers, and even textile products, their look turns baffled and then shocked. It’s plain simple: people don’t know. They think asbestos diseases are a thing of the past, something related to miners and sailors. But the sad truth is that anyone could join the next generation of victims. If we continue to import and allow asbestos to be contained in our everyday products, these diseases are never going away. Congress needs to acknowledge that asbestos is a toxin that the US failed to regulate for too long. It is time for Congress to resist the enormous pressures of industry and push for legislation that would stop the imports and ban asbestos once and for all.

Linda: How were you able to capture your mom’s feelings in this drama?

Paolo: My Mom is still angry at the corporation my father worked for. She knows she can’t prove anything but deep inside she’s sure they are the ones to blame. She misses my father so much and still can’t accept the idea that there are no answers.  I decided I had to portray her stance in my short film without turning it into the predominant point of view of the protagonist.  Her voice is definitely there, but it’s part of a dialogue tinted with doubts and crossed lines.

Linda: How did you father impact your work?

Paolo: My father had a huge impact on my growth as a filmmaker. He was an accountant with a High School degree and a 9 to 5 job. But, more than anything, he loved movies. He showed me the beauty of filmmaking since I was a little kid, and, more than any other person, he encouraged me to pursue my career. He was my biggest fan.  I remember a few days before he died, I told him about a potential job I was bidding for. He looked at me, squarely in the eyes, and since he could barely breathe, he whispered: “You have to do it. You have to go. Doesn’t matter what people say. Don’t listen to them. Just go. Your Dad will be there with you.”


Paolo, ADAO salutes your powerful efforts in the fight against asbestos. We are grateful for your work and wish you incredible success with The Mother!

Rays Blog as we raised a glass to Debbie xx


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